Bad habits are hard to break and good habits are hard to form. At least this has been my experience…
Sometimes I get so busy and so overwhelmed I forget to do certain things that help get me set up for success in any given day.
My number one problem is starting out the day with a bad attitude, but if I do certain things when I wake up to set my attitude right for the day, my day goes so much better, even when things don’t go my way, or as planned.
*A great attitude becomes a great day, which becomes a great year, which becomes a great life.
Not sure where that quote came from but I read it daily as part of my morning routine to help set my mind right for the upcoming unknown.
Back when I was drinking heavily and hating everything and everyone around me, I had a lot of bad luck.
Because I didn’t write things down in my calendar, I would miss appointments for things that would help me.
Because I constantly fought the flow of life instead of going with it, I would become increasingly, and visually, frustrated and people didn’t want to be around me.
Because I wasn’t interested in anyone but myself I didn’t have anyone to go to when things got really bad. The only place I had to go was into my own head (which I discovered later is a very dangerous place for me to be).
Things would never go my way and life got really hard. I lost jobs. I lost friends. I lost my will to live. I was never helpful to anyone else because I was obsessed with myself. I would run out of gas and have to walk because I wouldn’t get gas when I could. It was hard to get a job because I had a bad reputation. I would eat unhealthy food that made me feel like crap.
And none of this was ever MY fault…
I knew I had to make a change or I would be miserable until I died and I didn’t want that.
I started researching ways to improve my life and how to change bad habits. Just about everything I read said to quit drinking so I did. I also read a lot about having an attitude of gratitude and began writing 6-10 things every day that I’m grateful for. This practice has helped me immeasurably. I can be grateful for my job now even when I have a bad day there. And bad days get fewer and farther between.
Here’s what I do daily to get my head screwed on right:
- Practice gratitude: I make a quick list of things I’m grateful for. I try to always include a few things that I sometimes take for granted that I don’t always think about every day. For example a reliable vehicle and power, water, and gas. I also include people, like my husband who puts up with my crap, real friends, and great co-workers who push me to be better.
- Plan my Day: I sit down with my calendar and go over places I need to be at what time, and tasks that need to be done. Then I figure out what order to do everything in. This includes making time to do something that puts me closer to my long-term goals, to improve myself just a little bit every day.
- I ask my higher power for help: I ask for help to keep my thoughts away from self-pity and self seeking motives. I ask for insight about any problems that may arise. I ask to remember to pause if I get upset instead of reacting immediately. I ask for guidance on how I can be helpful to to others and how I can pack as much as possible into the stream of life. I ask to be helped to be kind and loving to everyone I come in contact with.
- End of Day: I review my day to see what went well and what didn’t. I take a moment to enjoy the good parts, and I think about solutions to the bad parts. If I owe an apology I do it as soon as possible. I ask for my fear to be removed and for help being better the next day.
The mind is a powerful thing. It can make or break a person. People consumed with negativity always have a bad day, no matter how well it’s going.
I don’t hang out with negative people anymore. They brought me down. I keep them at arm’s length now. My serenity depends on it. I’ve seen a positive person have a worse day than a negative person and end their day in a much better place. Those are the people I want to be around these days.
I don’t play the victim. I look for a solution.
I don’t look for sympathy. I help someone else out instead.
I try to be the listener, not the talker.
I try to be the giver, not the taker.
I know the rewards will come soon enough. If I can achieve peace within myself, I will never have a bad day.
I try not to put things off. Why put off til tomorrow what I can do today? I try to stay ahead of the game. I enjoy my down time so much more when I’m not worried about what I have to do later.
I’m not the person who complains and tries to make everyone as miserable as I am. I’m the one who lifts morale.
I don’t believe in luck anymore. I believe everything happens for a reason. I don’t have to know what the reason is either. I just know that when I do these certain things, my days go better and my life improves a little bit more every day.
I do this, and good things happen to me.
“You can’t fully commit to your personal growth if you’re still committed to your bullshit.” ~ Neghar Fonooni