I recently got passed up for a promotion. The boss told everyone through an email that another guy had been promoted and that we should all give him the respect he deserves and that he has a lot of experience. Well, I have a lot of experience as well. And where’s my respect? Why didn’t I even get a chance to apply for this new position? I’ve been there longer than anyone. Even the boss.
After utilizing “The Pause“, and taking a few deep breaths, I realized that just because the boss says this other guy has a lot of experience doesn’t mean that I don’t. My boss is a good guy, and I trust him. I also recognize this is his decision, not mine. Maybe the other guy is a better fit. They have worked together in the past. He has never specifically told me I’m not good enough so I shouldn’t put words in his mouth he never said, and I shouldn’t think I know what he’s thinking. I’ve made this mistake more than once in the past and all it did was make me miserable.
After taking offense at first, I decided to turn it over to my higher power and to not worry about it anymore. I decided not to make this a “black or white” situation. It’s not good or bad. It just is. All I can do is just continue to try and do the next right thing, and being angry and resentful about something I have no control over is a useless waste of time.
I still have my same role in a job I am very grateful to have. I don’t have to worry about where I fit in.
Now the boss is going on vacation and I have a chance to be helpful to the new second in command while he’s away. I’m glad I didn’t react the way my old self would have. A positive mindset is a powerful thing, indeed.
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