Feel Good, Look Good = Look Good Feel Good

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When I look good, I feel good. The reverse is also true. There have been many days where I know I didn’t look my best, but I felt good and it showed. Other people could see it and remarked how good I looked. I thought, “Really? I haven’t showered and I’m still in my grubby work clothes.” People notice.

On days where I don’t particularly feel good, (like when I’m stressed out, frustrated, and feeling resentful towards everyone and everything) but I manage to take the time to make myself presentable and look good, that shows too! And when I look good, it helps to make me feel better too.

The best way I’ve found, for me, to look good and feel good is to work it from the inside out. If you put a bunch of junk in your body, then junk is what’s going to come out. Same theory applies to what you put in your head. Aside from the occasional treats I allow myself, I eat healthy, whole foods. Not fast food or any pre-made microwavable stuff with ingredients I can’t pronounce.

I like to make large batches of food ahead of time to keep in the freezer so I can have something good when I’m in a hurry. I split it into smaller portions so I can pull out a little bit at a time.

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A good nights sleep is key to me looking and feeling good the next day. I organize my clothes I’m going to wear the next day as well as my thoughts. I have a plan in mind for the morning so I’m not scrambling around, grabbing whatever is convenient to eat and trying to rush out the door barely in time for work.

I do something good for myself first thing. I can’t be helpful to anyone else if I don’t first take good care of myself. And when I take care of myself on the inside, I can be fully present and more helpful to others. And being helpful to others also helps me feel better!

I take deep breaths and meditate while moving my body in a fluid motion trying to become one with the universe. Ebb and flow. I do some light yoga stretches. All this gets my blood flowing to my brain waking me up and clearing out any junk thoughts that might be floating around in there.

All these things make me feel good on the inside. I think of it as building layers, kind of like an onion, from the inside out..  When I feel good on the inside, it’s easier to look good on the outside!

Then I get myself ready on the outside.

I brush my teeth, do my hair, clean up and put my fresh face to the world. I put on clean clothes. I smile at myself in the mirror and tell myself “It’s going to be a great day!” (Even if I really think it won’t, I say it anyway. I fake it til I make it..)

When I leave the house feeling and looking good, inside and out, the world knows it, and I am better able to practice kindness to both myself and others, which ultimately benefits me in the long run!

I’m also particular about what I feed my mind. I rarely watch TV because it’s mostly junk. I prefer to read. And mostly what I read is uplifting and motivating. I try to build layers of good from the inside out. It’s helped me become a more helpful, productive, and positive person.

And I feel great!

~Thanks for reading – LC

 

 

Decision Making

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A lot people, including me, lack the ability to come to a definite decision in a timely manner. It’s something I’m getting better at, but I’m still practicing and probably will be for the rest of my life. In Napolean Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”, it says people who can come to a definite decision quickly are more successful in their lives than people who make decisions slowly. I took that to mean I must make the decision now to change my habits and routines If I want my life to improve.

Procrastination is the opposite of decision. People who procrastinate are destined to fail. You can’t achieve anything if you don’t do anything. People who can make definite decisions in a timely fashion have a much higher chance of succeeding. It really is that simple.

Go ahead and make the decision RIGHT NOW to take back your life!

Go ahead and start taking the necessary steps now!

What are you waiting for? The best time is now.

Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Keep practicing every day until you form a new, better habit.

Make the decision RIGHT NOW  to lose weight, get toned, gain confidence, or whatever your goals may be.

The only thing holding you back is you. I’ve prepared a free e-book with tips to help get and keep you motivated and thinking positive.

Invest in yourself. YOU are worth it, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

~Thanks for reading – LC

Everything in Moderation (Including Moderation)

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I like to reward myself once in awhile for being good by over-indulging in things that I normally keep at arms length.

It feels good to blow it out once in awhile and not have that worry of counting calories or acting proper.

Once in awhile I like to pig out on some junk food. I used to like to drink my face off, but since that got out of hand and can’t be moderated at all, I don’t do that anymore.

Sometimes I cut loose and get loud and don’t follow proper manners or act like a lady.

It’s great for morale, to just spend some time not worrying about consequences and just doing whatever I feel like doing.

I’ve found the best way for me to keep myself balanced is to knock myself off balance once in awhile.

~Thanks for reading – LC

Meditation and Breathing Practices

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Meditation and breathing practices are a good way to begin building your awareness of the body and mind to begin the transformation into a healthier, more positive you. Focusing on breathing helps you be in the present as opposed to dwelling on the past, or worrying about the future.

Mind/Body Connection

Interconnected and interrelated are the heart, mind, and instincts. I know when I get stressed my body gets tense and I’m uncomfortable, disturbed. This then sets off a chain reaction that finally culminates in bad eating habits, frustration, and bursts of anger. Once I realize this is happening, I focus on my breathing, my heart lightens, and I begin to relax a little.

Our breathing is connected to our emotions. We breathe differently when we become emotional. Once you become aware of your breathing, you can better control your emotions.

Being aware of my breathing is what helps me successfully make it through my day. It’s something I have to practice daily. When I practice relaxation and breathing it eventually becomes second nature. Bring the body and the mind will follow. I believe the opposite to be true as well. Since they are related, it would only make sense that if you bring presence of mind, the body will follow, too.

Healthy mind, healthy body = healthy body, healthy mind. Just work on whichever part is easiest, and with enough devotion the rest will fall in line.

 

Breathing Practices

Why practice breathing?

  • Clear the mind
  • Distracting thoughts subside
  • Experience inner peace and relaxation
  • Feel refreshed

So much of our stress and tension comes from the mind. When the mind stills, happiness and contentment arises.

The benefits of practicing breathing can ultimately be one of the greatest things you can do for your body, soul, and peace of mind. We can connect to our emotions through our breath. Since our emotions make us breathe differently it makes sense that we could control our emotions through breathing.

To elevate your presence of mind, become fully aware, and engage in the present moment, I practice regulating my breath. This helps me be present, or, “all the way there” when dealing with other people and situations in which I need to a part of. I’m easily distracted and my mind wanders a lot, which makes it difficult for me to engage in the present moment. Once my mind is right, my body soon follows. I’m then able to be of maximum service and fully present.

For more information on different types of breathing practices check out:

Breathing Practices and Pranayama in Yoga

and

6 Breathing Exercises to Relax in 10 Minutes or Less“.

 

Meditation

Why meditate?

  • To learn how to calm yourself when difficult situations arise
  • To achieve mental calm and peacefulness
  • To overcome external circumstances that distract from a feeling of “undisturbed”
  • Mental balance
  • Ability to control your mind

I’ve found, for me, the simplest and safest way to achieve balance in both my emotional and physical states, is through meditation, not medication. I don’t like pills and I don’t think it’s right for me to have to depend on them for my sense of well being.

My mental state has dramatically improved since I began practicing meditation and breathing exercises. It helps me to get my mind prepared and ready to tackle the day, and to be able to deal with any irritations that happen on a daily basis.

I highly recommend practicing meditation for at least 8 minutes a day for a life that knows peace and comprehends serenity. For more information, check out this article about the positive effects of meditation.

Take care of yourself and respect yourself. Give yourself every advantage you possibly can. It’s a scary world out there but it doesn’t have to get you down! Stay positive and invest in yourself!

 

~Thanks for reading – LC

 

 

Adaptability

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone did things our way?

Wouldn’t life go much smoother if everyone were on the same page and thought things should be as we like them to be?

Unfortunately, that almost never happens. One of the things many I’ve learned in AA is that my serenity is directly proportional to my level of acceptance.

Even though you can’t always control outside occurrences, you do have control over how you deal with it. You can overcome what life throws at you once you learn to adapt to situations and work through your inner conflicts.

But how does one do this? With a little open mindedness, faith, and in some instances professional help.

It’s human nature to do what it takes to survive. We wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for our ancestors amazing adaptability. I find it fascinating that there are humans all over the world, living and thriving in just about every climate. Our brains enable us to assess the world around us and make choices based on our surroundings.

Adapting to change is something I struggle with. I don’t exactly “Go with the flow” very well. One of the things that helps me cope with change is my openness to new ideas. I like the idea of learning new things and new ways to do things, even though I feel a little resistant at first. I’m learning to look for more than just one “right way” and to consider multiple perspectives.

Acceptance

I think acceptance to change has a lot to do with the ability to adapt. And willingness. Accepting things I can’t change instead of being resentful toward them, having an open mind, and having the willingness to try something a different way are all key factors in being able to successfully adapt to change.

It takes a lot of energy to try and rearrange life to suit yourself. Sometimes you might find you need to change your core principles to keep up with changes in the both the world, and life in general.

It can feel almost impossible to change a feeling. An open mind is a key factor in being able to adapt to change, and openness to new ideas and the idea of learning something new are two concepts which in turn can shift thinking. It’s possible to gain new positive experiences with an open mind but it will take a lot of time and effort.

Nothing worth having comes easy. You have to be willing to work for it.

Check out this article on 12 ways to adapt to anything life throws at you.

 

~Thanks for reading – LC

The Forming of Good Habits

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Ever wonder how some people just seem to have everything go right for them and they never seem frustrated or overwhelmed? It’s not by accident, or lucky, it’s by design. With a little planning and forming of good habits, you can set yourself up for success with nightly and morning rituals and routines.

What good have I done today? What good shall I do this day.”

– Benjamin Franklin

Try sitting back and just reflect on the events of the day.

  • What was good about it?
  • What went wrong?
  • Is there anything you would have done differently?
  • What worked and what didn’t?
  • Can you do anything better than you did today?
  • How can you make tomorrow flow better?

You could even write all this down in a journal. Sometimes seeing things written in black and white helps to clarify and bring it all together.
After you’ve done your daily reflection, look ahead to tomorrow and come up with a plan of attack.

  • What is on your to-do list?
  • On what are you going to improve?
  • What good habit are you going to replace a bad habit with?
  • Is what you are doing today getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow?
  • What is your new plan for how you want to tackle life?
  • Make sure you always have enough gas in your car instead of waiting until it’s almost empty.

 

Reflection on the day and planning for tomorrow can help you stay focused on your goal.

Making these routines into consistent habits will greatly improve your chances of success.
Come up with some ideas of routines you can try that will help you to relax and wind down, and focus on positive outcomes.

For example:

  • Drink some relaxing tea and meditate.
  • Shut off all electronics.
  • Soak your feet and read.
  • Think about what you are grateful for instead of dwelling on the bad stuff.
  • Write out a plan of action for the next day.
  • Lay out the clothes you want to wear and gather any items you will need to take with you.

Make whatever you come up with a nightly routine.
What can you do for your morning routine?

If you’re like most people it probably involves coffee. While waiting for your coffee you could get out and walk down the block and back. That would help get your blood flowing, and your body moving, and your brain working to plan out your day. Do some light yoga stretching while you think about how your day is going to go.

Have a healthy breakfast, but not one too big and heavy. You need something that will give you energy, but not weigh you down.

Make sure you get up in plenty of time to get ready. Oversleeping leads to being rushed, being rushed causes stress, stress causes mistakes, and the next thing you know you’re having a bad day before you’ve even begun.

One of the habits of successful people is going to bed and getting up at the same time every day. Some even get up at 4:00 am every day. Even on their days off work. If you think you can’t do it, or won’t do it, remember that your life won’t change for the better if you don’t make changes.

Set yourself up for success!

Make the most of your day! Find a routine that will enhance your health and life.

Having a solid plan for your day can do so much for your peace of mind.

Build better habits that create success, and you will be well on your way to creating the New Super You!

Remember, invest in YOURSELF!

Why put off til tomorrow, what you can do today?

Chin up, smile, look yourself in the mirror and say, “It’s going to be a great day!”

Stay positive! You can do it!

~Thanks for reading – LC

 

Persistence

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I learned a little about this value back in August…

On my last camping trip there was a thunderstorm with a torrential downpour. Later, after the sun came back out, I went to restart my campfire. I had some wood gathered that I had sheltered under a rock with an overhang, but it still got wet.

I had some charcoal and lighter fluid, but not that much so I used it sparingly. It took a long time to get that fire started. I lined up damp pieces of wood so they would dry out faster around the edge of the fire pit.

I kept rearranging the wood, putting the driest pieces next to the puny flame I had, and I kept blowing on it.. I knew if I could get a nice hot bed of coals as a base I’d be home free!

I tended and nurtured that fire for over an hour before it finally took. Walking around it, blowing on it, putting newly dried wood in, and replacing the edge with wet wood to dry. I was determined to get that fire going, and because I persisted, and didn’t give up, I was rewarded not only with a nice toasty fire, but also the satisfaction that I had accomplished what I had set out to do.

Just like with life, sometimes you have to help it along, and poke it a little, and rearrange a couple of things here and there. Life is an ongoing, ever changing entity. If you stop helping it along the way or fail to make constant improvements, it burns out. But if you keep on keeping on, you can be rewarded with a rich and full life.

Weak desires bring weak results. One of the main instigators of failure is lack of persistence.

Be persistent, don’t give up!

~Thanks for reading – LC

Back to Nature

Getting back to nature always makes me appreciate what I have. All of life’s little annoyances really seem trivial when I don’t have easy access to things like running water, heat, a stove, refrigeration, etc..

When I have to hike a quarter mile up and down a steep trail full of rocks, roots, and switchbacks between my car and creek side campsite I really appreciate and value the conveniences of city life.

I’m camping in Hot Springs, NC right now.

I’m definitely getting in some good exercise hiking through the woods for four days. A lot of leg work.. literally. My arms also got a good workout because I had to carry all my gear down by hand. I probably made seven trips in all!

But the view was totally worth it! I know a lot of people go to the beach for vacation, but I associate the beach with being lazy. I associate the mountains with action and adventure! Not that there’s anything with being lazy once in a while, I just try not to make a habit out of it. When I’m doing well with my work-out regimen and overall life routine, I want to keep it up! I want to hike and bike in places I’ve never been rather than sit out in the sun all day. Don’t get me wrong, I like the beach too, it just seems to me there’s not as much to do and it’s more expensive.

Walking in the forest, especially in the mountains, gives me an uneven terrain to cope with, which helps improve coordination, as well as hills and obstacles. I can feel this constant change in terrain working different muscle groups and it’s breaking me out of my same-old-same-old routine.

Here’s some more good reasons to “take a hike”

Yoga and meditation by the creek has been a phenomenal experience. I love the quiet and solitude. It helps me focus on my breathing. The only sounds are the chirping of birds and the water flow of the creek. I feel the stress just flow out of me into the earth below and sink down and away.

I learned a lot on this trip about:

Life will not wait for me. It also won’t stop when I’m gone. It was good for me to realize just how small a part of the universe I am, but at the same time I am important to the grand scheme of things.

I highly recommend getting out of the same old boring routine of a gym. Try going camping in a remote area for 4 days, or make a day trip of hiking at a park near you. It might just give you the perspective you need to kick start a new routine.

Personal and emotional fitness, and striving for goals are like a campfire. You have to help it along and poke it sometimes to keep it going. Be persistent.

~Thanks for reading – LC